Sep 28, 2009

Proof

I found this DVD cover tossed up on my desk ,it says "Proof" ,there are pictures of Gwyneth Paltrow who happens to be my favorite actress since ever (Penelope Cruz is close second) and Anthony Hopkins but that's beside the point . what caught my eye is what's written on the top of it :

The Biggest Risk In Life Is Not Taking One

I so agree with that and live by it often ,I wouldn't say I'm a reckless daredevil risk taker but I'm definitely not a risk averse kind of person , I mean I can't understand this doctrine of not taking risks because "bad things will eventually happen" ,flash news ; we're going all to die eventually so why bother living ? Or is it more fulfilling when every step we take is guaranteed with "good" results ? Is that even possible ? 

Some (for instance) had blamed me for going to Thailand at young age and trying with a small business of my own ,It failed that's true and I'm having a hard time getting a "job" now but guess what ? I have no regrets at all ,what's wrong with being knocked down and getting up again ? generally in all aspects whether its personal relationships,career decisions ,or whatever  ,what's wrong with that ?
As the song goes , "It was good,It was bad but It was real" ,It was something at least ! that's better than living in constant fear of losing and nothingness I say! Isn't it ?

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21 comments:

Zeina said...

You are speaking my mind in this post. And just in time as well, I was just arguing with mom about traveling to get a better job, a better life. But!
She stated all the bad things that could happen :/ everything to break my hopes..
Now I fear to go through this, to fail.. To hear the "we tried to talk you out of this" but I think I'll go through this anyways!
Nothing is certain, i can't tell if it's better than staying here doing whatever job i find, rather than explore the many opportunities out there! Living a new life!
*sigh*
I'll do this!

NasEr said...

Zeina its always easier to falsafeh-ing when its not about you,so I'll say *clears throat* : weight the pros n cons and go for it if you think you have a good chance at it . I say if leaving and exploring new opportunities doesn't hurt anyone just do it ! what's the worst case scenario ? be back after 6 months or something ?

asoom said...

Have you ever read Rich Dad Poor Dad? I learned self-made millionaires are many times people that took risks that average people would have considered "too risky" to take.

Complicated said...

"what's wrong with being knocked down and getting up again ? generally in all aspects whether its personal relationships,career decisions"

Well that's actually how one experiences life and acquires strenght, endurance and eventually wisdom. Tis the time to do all this experimenting, to try and fail and fight and fall and get up again and push forward..Later in life when one is old and has no strength left in him/her to fight; one can lean against a wall and look back at one's life and remember how sweet the fight was and how worthy it had all been.

Zeina said...

Hmm I weighed the pros and cons.. I reviewed my plans several times, every time a new thing appears and I need to fix, fight or just be aware of. That is good, it's a must actually!
And I think leaving would hurt some ppl, especially mom :/ that really worries me, but I think she is strong. Well, I hope she'll be strong!!

But you said what's the worst scenario... Nothing that a human can't overcome :)

NasEr said...

asoom no i haven't but I highly welcome and appreciate book gifts :D need my mailing address ? :p
but I've read or watched interviews with many successful ppl and the one thing that surprises you that in most cases they never saw it coming,and it didn't make sense at the time to predict they'll be "something big" ,even with the most talented actors,the one thing in common between them all is that they all failed many times and they kept trying,and it worked for some .

Prudence yes prudence ,I totally agree,i actually encourage experimenting soon as u get the idea,people who keep thinking "no its not the time yet" usually miss the chance..like ppl who didn't have a bf gf till ever cuz "its not the right time yet" w e7na z'3ar :D (az'3ar men haik )lol

Zeina ahhh...she'll miss u badly I'm sure,but think of it as if u were goin to study ! give it a trial ..dunno,talk it over with her, parents usually won't keep u from doing something they know might bring good to your life so. keep us posted .

asoom said...

naser, on this day I'm broke as hell dude. How about you send me a gift and when I'm rich I'll return the favor? Feel free to send my anything by Emily Giffin (except for something borrowed I'm reading it now). I'm in the feel-good book mood these days. Don't send me anything intellectual or reomotely requires hire thought.

Anonymous said...

hey , i agree with u on gwyneth , no no penelope

how about calculated risks don't they count as risks ? how about when u almost know the outcome , wouldn't it be dumb to just jump in whether it's a job related risk or a relationship ??

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NasEr said...

brave anonymous#2 noted.I'll go now and cry with my face down in the pillow .

NasEr said...

asoom
I'll send you a gift when I'm rich 7ader :D get me a job 1st,لا تعطني سمكة بل علمني كيف أصيد lol . I'm not focusing on reading these days though rather on building a book shelf ,something weird ,,ideas still cookin.

Anonymous
Watch "Vicky,Christina,Barecelona" and then tell me if you change your mind about Penalope .
When you calculate a risk and you're certain of the outcome (something I learned through 4.5 years of studying risk and statistics at university is impossible) you just don't get involved and switch turns before you're in the middle of it .but when I start something I finish it and take whatever I can from it,I was watching this program called "FEARLESS ,The Margaret Moth Story" who has a terminal cancer ,she said two things I admired and believe to be very true :
"I think life´s sort of like a game of tennis,You have no choise over how that ball comes to you,but it´s how you hit it back that counts." and it ended with her sayin : "to me it is no different if I die in six weeks or in twenty years. I don’t think it matters how long you live as long as you can say that I have got everything out of life.” . and I'm all for getting everything out of everything I put my mind to do.

Anonymous said...

when i get a terminal desease i'll say the bravest things n i'll be the inspiration for generations to come

in the meantime i'll think of life as a stroll in the woods , in a meadow , in via condotti..whatever , n if a tennis ball comes at me out of nowhere n i can't hit it back as i should , i'll duck

of course i may change my mind later if i think of something else , or to add :ss

NasEr said...

Anonymous you sound like u're making light of someone dying ,she's a remarkable woman ,camerawoman . Tennis balls don't just fall from the sky we call for them,except when someone dies I guess that u can't control .funny you mention ducking,if u've been reading my blog u should know I have this habit of having one thought or line but no body for it,i wrote down couple of days ago : أنا الرصاصة تخترق كل شيء و إذا ارتدت فهي قاتلة .
That's how I'd like to to think of mylife on death bed.I'm sure u'll change your mind some day,so I will.

Complicated said...

lol you refuse to let me change my name..how or when did my name become my identity?? Ok you "all" win, I am destined to be prudent :p

A risk is taking a chance; the outcome is unknown. Calculations are only our feeble rationalizations and predictions for the future; they can give us a clue but they can never be sure! In relationships, one is tempted to take the risk, to leap against one's good judgment and other people's advice. It is safer that way. BUt there still lingers that nagging "what if"!! So in the end one is either tormented by "I shouldn't have" or by "what if"..

Conclusion..life is a torment until death ;)

NasEr said...

Prudence the thing is,"Prudence" had a character "the nickname itself ,not you of course),"complicated" is kinda cleche'...everybody is complicated and everyone believes they're complicated and they're happy about it n blehhh...Prudence wins my vote if u're considering one :D.
I made up my mind in 2nd year univ about the "what if" conundrum ,I'd rather do something and say "maybe I shouldn't have" rather than live with the what-if's ,been there and I'm done with it.the ironic part is when you say "I shouldn't have" because of a "What If" ! and hey,Life is good,she could be a bitch though,dealt with that too but I'm not sayin how here :D

Prudence said...

"gasps in horror" are you saying that I do NOT have a character?!! Ok I know you didn't mean that :p

Cliched huh? Well in my defense I say that I was not referring to myself as "complicated" but rather to a very complicated state of mind that I was dealing with. It was overwhelming to such degree that I had to write it down somewhere.

I am a bit of a risk taker..mostly out of bordem and an urgent desire to change things..even if for the worse :S I need protection from myself and i have it. If it were up to me I would've screwed up my life in an unimaginable ways :O

I feel confined..I envy your freedom.

NasEr said...

Complicated :ppppp
ah so ur blog alias was ur facebook status ? :DDDD
you envy my freedom but there u said u could've ruined ur life in so many ways ? sho had ? :D reminds me of a 7afartali mathal : بدي إيّاه و تفو عليه ! lol

Anonymous said...

naser , i'd never make light of a dying person remarkable or not , i only said if i knew i'm dying i'd choose to be brave n act on it . i've seen the first video but couldn't see the rest of it , u see , it's about choices , some ppl need the adrenaline rush more than others maybe or they simply have more courage , i can never be a war correspondent , i admire the likes of Margaret Moth but do not want to take a risk where i'm shot in the face and my jaw blown away with the base of my tongue

risks which spell disaster do not appeal to me . call me boring but ordering a dish which i have no idea what the ingredients are is a risk to me .

NasEr said...

Anonymous Okay good ,keep that in mind though and don't order a dish someday and then not eat it.its no good for u and the dish.

Prudence said...

lol it's always bedi yah, I think it's nefsi fih, wetfo 3alih; that is the essence of the saying "be careful what you wish for you just might get it"!

Having the freedom to make not so wise decision is in itself a blessing. i was trying to make you see where you're fortunate :p

morning :)

NasEr said...

Prudence I got that kont bastahbel :p *yawns* morninggg...*end of yawn*

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